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Before you begin
Choose a time when you can be present. Put away notifications, agree that either person may pause, and keep this exercise separate from an urgent argument. There is no score and no requirement to finish.
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Try the practice
- Choose a no-cost date: cook a new recipe, take a walk, revisit music from your story, or use conversation cards.
- Protect the time from phones and household logistics where possible.
- End by naming one moment you want to remember.
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One question to carry
- What helps us feel playful and unhurried together?
Finish with grace. Thank each other for showing up. Choose one small way to carry the connection into the next day.
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