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Before you begin
Choose a time when you can be present. Put away notifications, agree that either person may pause, and keep this exercise separate from an urgent argument. There is no score and no requirement to finish.
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Try the practice
- Rate connection, conflict, friendship, intimacy, faith, money, and teamwork from 1–10 privately first.
- Share one strength and one area that needs attention.
- Choose one next step and a date to review it.
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One question to carry
- What is one small investment that would help this month?
Finish with grace. Thank each other for showing up. Choose one small way to carry the connection into the next day.
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