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Before you begin
Choose a time when you can be present. Put away notifications, agree that either person may pause, and keep this exercise separate from an urgent argument. There is no score and no requirement to finish.
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Try the practice
- Write what happened and the impact you believe it had.
- Name your responsibility without adding a defense.
- State the changed action and ask what support or boundary would help.
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One question to carry
- What would make this repair visible over time?
Finish with grace. Thank each other for showing up. Choose one small way to carry the connection into the next day.
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